Try setting the BE services to start manually so they don't start on re-boot, reboot, and then run live update directly from this directory:
At least it will update, and hopefully the updates will fix your problems.
I tried setting all the services to Manual and stopping them and killing them and they kept restarting. This is not normal behavior is it?
I will have to wait until later today to reboot since this server is also the file server and is in produciton.
Based on what you are saying above, it is not enough to just try to stop them and then set them to manual. They may still be running if they hang while stopping, or have files that are still locked.
You will need to reboot and then run LU.