I forgot to restart the agent :o so I was able to establish a trust but still no go on updating
Job started : Tuesday, December 23, 2014 10:24:16 AM
Job ended : Tuesday, December 23, 2014 10:24:22 AM
Final error: 0x643 - Fatal error during installation.
Final error category: Other Errors
Completed status: Failed
And running the job gives me communication error.
No Antivirus on the machine
IPV6 is enabled on both systems (its not disabled on any of our systems)
Publishing tab shows the correct server
Firewall has an inbound port open for TCP 10000