Thanks for the reply Daniel. Have made another enhancement request on this.
Just noticed this Support Doc on the Symantec site:
http://support.veritas.com/docs/287833
SQL services are stopped during the application of Backup Exec patches or upgrades.
Details:
When installing a Backup Exec patch or upgrade, it is normal for SQL services to stop running. This occurs because it is necessary to clear out all connections to the database, so that the database can be successfully detached and attached.
This behavior should be taken into consideration before installing a patch or upgrade, especially if the Backup Exec Database is installed into an existing SQL instance.
The product is working as designed.
Still seems ugly, and I don't know of any other products that we use that require detaching and attaching of DB's to hotfix them, and certainly none that require the whole SQL Service be shut down.